Learning How to Talk to Your Kids
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Kids can be extremely stubborn, but at different times, they can be very attentive and patient. Parents love their children, whether they are difficult or not. Parents want to give their children the knowledge that they need to survive and flourish in the world. It is hard sometimes to understand the way children interpret things that you say to them. Fighting and yelling will not solve anything. Here are some things to say to your child, so that they will understand your messages better:
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"Please make up your mind"- Use this as an approach when you want your child to do something, or not to do something anymore. Speak loudly and clearly and show the child that you mean what you are saying. You have to make it clear that the child is responsible for its own actions. Children have to learn what cause and effect is, and sharing this with them will bring insight into what they do and say.
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"I love you but do not like the way that you are acting"- Children have to know the difference between right and wrong. They have to be told that they are doing the wrong thing, and know that it is what they do that is bad, that you do not think that they as people are bad.
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"I need you to help me solve this problem"- If a child does something that bothers you, you can ask for help, and point out what it is that is annoying you. Children will want to help you, and probably stop the action.
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"What do you mean by that?" When kids get mad, it is not unusual for them to tell you that they hate you, or that you are stupid. This is said out of frustration, and it is not the way that they really feel about you. Asking children what their problem is, can help them to resolve it successfully, without resorting to mean words and deeds.
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People are different and have different needs- Children often think that things are not fair, and you need to explain to them that everyone has his or her own needs, and that life will never be fair all of the time. What one person gets, is not necessarily what the other person will get.
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Children often learn by example, and you should keep this in mind when disciplining children. All children are different, and they respond to discipline in different ways. What works for one child may not work for another, and you should not do things that you do not like your children to do.
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Be patient- One of the hardest things we face as parents is being able to hold on to our patience when we are exhausted and frustrated. Remember that children do not have the maturity of adults, and they are not going to act like adults. They should not be expected to. They should be treated with respect, and love at all times.
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Shiv Majumdar is a proud father of two teenagers.
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Date: Thu, 2 Jul 2009 Time: 5:42 AM
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